Win Your Ex Back With These Four Tactics

A tactic is defined as a maneuver for attaining a particular goal. In this instance, your goal is winning your ex back and mending the root cause of the break up.

1.) To begin with, you'll have to gradually ease her back into the relationship. An injury won't heal overnight. A little time is required to heal your broken relationship.

Instead of attempting to repair things as rapidly as you can, you should allow about a month to let things cool off. While you're waiting, you need to be assessing the relationship itself. Think about issues such as whether you truly want her to be a part of your life and what changes you'll have to make to get the relationship to work.

2.) When this cooling off period is over, you'll have to find a way to reopen the lines of communication with her again. It is vital that you build up a level of comfort with her. This basically means being a good friend and being able to communicate in a relaxed way.

You shouldn't have any talk about heavy topics that place pressure on her. Now is not the time for discussions about the break up or any other serious relationship issues. There will come a time for this sort of discussion but it will be at a later stage.

If it seems impossible to become friends, then you may need to allow more cooling off time. Nonetheless, a month should be the maximum. Excessive time apart will cause your ex to adapt or get too comfortable with living without you. In addition, it increases the odds of another love rival to enter the picture.

3.) A time will come when the important matter of resuming the relationship will have to be discussed. This is going to be a very awkward and delicate moment. Nevertheless, you can't afford to be spending too much time with her as a friend. If there's no possibility of convincing her, you need to know this so that you can move on.

Don't place too much hope in her agreeing right away with coming back. A non-committal response means that the prospect of restarting the relationship still exists in her mind. It'll only require some more time for her to know one way or the other.

4.) A tactic to try out is to take advantage of something that everyone does. What I'm talking of is the inclination that we all have to replay certain events repeatedly in our minds. When a person says something that induces a very powerful emotion, we tend to rehash that moment over and over again in our heads.

This is the way that we process feelings that we have about a particular emotional event. Usually, this happens when a person suddenly says something mean or snide that takes us off guard. But, this phenomenon can also be induced with an unexpected compliment or dramatic gesture.

For this to work, you will have to elicit a strong positive emotion from her. This will have to be a compliment or gesture that she would never expect to come from you.

If you do this correctly, she'll be enjoying this repeatedly in her mind when she's alone. The good emotions that she has about you becomes strengthened and reinforced with each "replay". You're not likely to induce this state more than a couple of times, but one or two times is all you'll need.

With skill, these tactics should help a lot in your efforts to win her back.

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