Verbal Abuse: Should You Breakup with a Boyfriend or Spouse?

Too many women put up with abuse from a boyfriend or spouse and that's not good. We all get tired and irritable when under stress and respond in unkind ways. It's only normal to lose our patience at times but physical abuse should never be tolerated.

Even with verbal abuse there is a line that a boyfriend or husband shouldn't cross. If they do, your relationship and possibly your safety may be at risk. Where is that line? When his verbal attacks humiliate, embarrass, intentionally hurt or degrade you (or any one of these) the line has been crossed.

When a mate is disrespectful and has no regard for your feelings, the relationship is in serious trouble, but not necessarily over. It does mean you have some decisions to make.

Here are 3 Things You Should Ask Yourself:

1. Does he say he's sorry? If he does that's a good sign. If he doesn't and repeatedly continues to hurt you, then apologizes and hurts you again over and over, then that's a problem.

2. Does he say he's sorry and seems determined to work it out? If he makes promises but refuses to do anything about it then that's not a good sign. What kind of action should you expect? (See the next.)

3. Do you have a minister, therapist or friend that he can talk to? See if he agrees to work things out with you. If he agrees then refuses to get help then he's not being sincere and YOU have big problem.

When you are upset emotionally you aren't thinking straight. Ask the opinion of a friend you trust. They should have your best interest in mind and can reveal dangers you may not want to admit. If your situation appears dangerous or children are involved seek help and plan to leave as soon as possible. Find a domestic violence organization in your area and follow their advice.


If you've already had a breakup read more:

BOYFRIEND BREAKUP.