Why choose Online Dating?
By: Dwight Brisco | Posted: 21st August 2006
What causes you to have those different experiences, does that mean you were wrong about the choice in the beginning? Is it good to have multiple experiences with different partners/dates or does society define this in a negative way? Who's the person judging you and why does their opinion matter to you?
There are so many different angles we could address and provide feedback on, but for starters let's focus on relationships and how it affects the dating cycle. There's an old quote that goes like this "Nothing Lasts Forever", unfortunately, most people prefer not to focus on this type of thinking because it can generate unhappiness or even worse, loneliness! Most of us would like to think that we have the perfect match, all of our friends compliment us when we're together, we share the same goals in life, and our families are great together. In hindsight, it's just the opposite: We're a good match, but we have our problems behind closed doors; although our friends compliment us, there are a few who wish they were in your shoes and plot their course respectively; over time, some of our goals change and we start leaning in a different direction; our families are happy as long as we are happy and can change on a moments notice!
Why do relationships dissolve and dreams get shattered? Sometimes, there's complacency with one another and someone stops doing the small things that made you attracted to them in the beginning. Maybe you stopped excersizing and started gaining weight, not too concerned because you have "your partner already"! Maybe you stopped working a certain job and started relying on your partner because they received a higher income! Maybe you stopped participating in certain physical encounters because you're too busy or you're tired of performing that part! Whatever the issue or reason was for the discontinuance of a certain participation, always remember that there's somebody waiting for an opportunity to take away what you have. Obviously, your lack of participation will make it easier for your partner to explore those avenues with someone who's willing to give them what you're not providing! A relationship is a job, once hired you can't just stop doing the job now that you're employed; you need to practice your skills, improve your skills, and show management that they've invested into the right person.
Once the relationship has ended, depending on the length, it's either back to the drawing board (the dating game) or an on-again off-again relationship cycle. As we enter the dating game, our first instinct is to protect our heart from being hurt again. This thought process of protecting oneself, is the beginning of the dating game: if you like someone, you don't tell them...if you get someone's number, you don't call right away (or else you'll seem desperate) or give them a wrong number (if you're not attracted to them)....eventually, the game will get old, you'll see the same people in different locations still approaching possible partners, as you either cling to the memories or search for your next partner... but deep inside, you're asking yourself "When will this game end"?. Most people will go to clubs with friends and may meet that attractive, physically compelling individual, who sweeps them off their feet and indulge in practices that temporarily take away the pain, only to realize this person has four or five other people who demand that same person's attention.
So the question is, how do you go about trying to find someone who's compatible to your interest? How to find your soulmate isn't an easy question to answer, because as we've found out earlier, people do play games. If you had access to a tool that could search unlimited boundaries for your possible matches, would you use it? What if the matched personalities also came with photos and a short bio of that person, would that excite you? What if the possible matches were people located in a city near you (or in your city), how would that make you feel? The questions just asked could be why more people today are leaning towards the Internet to find their soulmate.
One thing to be cautious about, is to not believe everything you read. Statistically speaking, most people who register with these Online Dating sites are not how they are perceived in person. The Internet allows one to express themselves without needing to be physically available; once you make an effort to meet, it's like starting all over again. The reason for this is that everyone has a different personality comfort level and some are more expressive than others. You may match up well with the individual according to their bio, but once you meet in person, you could be turned off by the lack of communication. To avoid this type of inconvenience, be sure to address questions about how the individual communicates when in person!
This article is written by Dwight Brisco, who's offered a number of counseling services in the field of relationships. This is one of many inspiring articles Dwight has agreed to write as the months progress. Dwight Brisco knows that there are a number of people out there who could use some alternative solutions in order to find their perfect soulmate and suggest you visit: www.match-doctor.info for additional options. The website is FREE to sign up and FREE to send/receive/reply to members emails. We suggest you be cautious about revealing all your information to strangers and be sure to inquire about areas you feel strongly about with any new prospects.
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