Intimacy Counseling Is Not for Weak People

Many couples do not really understand what intimacy is. They often think that sex and intimacy are one and the same. Because of this, intimacy has become the most misunderstood concept when it comes to relationships. Intimacy's definition is more than just sex. It involves love, trust, friendship, and commitment. If a couple understand each other, their marriage could last a lifetime, but if the couple does not really understand what intimacy is all about, it could be the beginning of a break up. To prevent this from happening, intimacy counseling is needed. In particular, the famous intimacy issues men have will benefit from proper intimacy counseling; they can experience intimacy leading to success.

There are some people who think that going into intimacy counseling is only for the weak. They are wrong. Admitting your weakness as a couple is courageous and mature. Not all couples can do that. To admit that something is wrong will make you more open minded to see things objectively. It will make you mature, because you will begin to understand what went wrong with your relationship and be humble enough to admit it.

Some people make the mistake of being too proud to admit that they are the reason for their break up. They would prefer break ups or divorces rather than facing their mistakes. There are two sides in every story. Relationship failure does not mean that only one of you has done something wrong. It is not a relationship unless there are two people involved. This relationship needs to be properly addressed if you want it to work out.

Intimacy counseling involves checking the state of your relationship. Your counselor will normally ask questions about you and your partner and about what you know of each other. You will be shocked about how little you know about each other. This is caused by not having proper communication with your partner. Sometimes it is better to talk about what you feel and listen to what your partner feels than to take for granted that you know.

Your counselor might also ask questions about both of your satisfaction in your sex life. Although intimacy is not all about sex, you must remember that sex is vital for a relationship to work out. Most partners who are not satisfied in their sex life will look for comfort elsewhere, thus making them commit infidelity. This is a very common reason why infidelity happens. As a couple you have an obligation to keep your partner satisfied. When you have sex, do not be harsh. Be more loving, tender, and considerate. Make your partner be aroused when you are making love.

Most importantly, couples must undergo intimacy counseling if there are children involved. If you and your partner break up, your children will be the most affected of all, especially if they are still young. They will never understand why their parents are breaking up. Remember, whatever problems you and your partner are facing do not involve your children. They are innocent. As much as possible do not fight in front of your children: it will negatively impact their future. Be responsible and approach your and your partner's problems maturely.


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Some of the fear of intimacy in men is cultural and maybe even biological. For more information on intimacy's meaning for men, visit tipswhatmenwant.com/Intimacy.htm. This article was prepared by members of the TWMW team led by Thomas Christopher, a Colorado public speaker.