Importance of daily talks with your Children

Communication between parents and children often leads to a good solid relationship and mutual trust. The best way to do this is to let it come naturally. You have to teach your kids in such a way that they want to talk to you about their plans, goals, dreams, achievements and problems. To accomplish this, parents have to start early.

Kids speak well from the age of 3 years. If you have toddlers, talk in short simple sentences and narrate what you do in daily life. Talking should become like a fun game for the child. Use facial expressions and gestures to give more meaning to what you are saying. Basically, keep the toddler interested. Studies show that such practices can enhance the child's vocabulary.

If you are dealing with children of kindergarten age, indulge their natural curiosity. They will have hundreds of questions, including ones that are either rhetorical or don't make much sense to an adult. But do answer them and never discourage them. Asking questions is an important way of learning. Ask your child about his/her friends and pay attention. Those are the things close to the heart of a child at that age.

When you have trained your child to talk to you everyday and tell you what goes on in his life, he will gradually carry that habit into his later years. Teenagers are usually reticent. But if approached in the right way, even they will open up. You need to appear as a friend in such times, rather than a know-it-all parent. Teenagers hate lectures. They want to be treated as adults even if they aren't. By maintaining open communication lines and being accessible, parents can offer more support that they realize. Then there is less chance of rebellious behavior, falling in with the wrong crowd or resorting to drugs and other addictions on the part of the teenager/young adult.

Conversation doesn't have to mean long-winding chat sessions. Sometimes asking your kid ‘How was your day?', ‘How did basketball practice go?' ‘What did you today at dance class?' can be the right questions to get a flow going. Some families make family dinners a social event. Children of such families tend to be less prone to depression and
they perform relatively well at school. Dinner times bring a sense of camaraderie that lifts the spirits.

When parents talk to their kid on a daily basis, it's easy for both sides to discuss ‘taboo' or difficult topics, like drugs and sex. Parents will be more confident in their approach, so they can better get through to the kids. Unfortunately parents who don't have a great history of communication with their children tend to falter halfway or beat around the bush when discussing serious issues. That will make the kids uncomfortable too.

Finally daily talks provide parents with some insight to their kids' lives. Some adults go crazy because they don't know what's going in. It leads to suspicions that may not be well founded. It's very easy to suspect drugs as the cause for your teenager's silence, but making false accusations can do much damage to the kids psyche. If you make it a point to talk to your kids everyday, you will definitely be rewarded as a parent.


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