How To Survive a Divorce Emotionally: Mission Possible

We have all read the statistics, one half of all marriages end in divorce. It makes you want to just flip a coin at the altar, doesn't it?

As many women do, I was sure my marriage would survive all that came our way. And believe me; we had a lot that came our way.

We were a blended family; meaning that I had my own child and he had children from his previous marriage.
We even ended up having our own bundle of joy within the first year. Things were great, but real life quickly set in.
Stressful jobs, lack of money, stepfamily issues, and many other obstacles were soon surrounding us and dividing up a family that was once very close.

We came to the realization that we no longer loved each other as we should. We were no longer happy to see each other at the end of the day, and we no longer even spoke to each other except for the occasional gripe. So we decided to separate. I rented a small house with my children, and he stayed in the house with his children.

I quickly found myself alone, with no one to support me. I was embarrassed to discuss my family issues with co-workers, and my family and close friends lived miles away. This was something I was going to have to do myself, on my own strength, on my own time.
Having small children makes that task even more daunting. You want to keep a happy disposition so as not to upset the little ones, yet you're dying inside.

I can recall many mornings putting on a smile while getting my 6 year old ready for school, singing songs on the drive, and hugs and happy kisses goodbye… only to burst out in tears the second I drove out of the school parking lot. Why does it hurt so?

I've come to realize that it HAS to hurt for a little while. You are grieving the loss of a loved one, just as much as if they passed away and were buried. You have to let go of the hopes and dreams you once shared, you have to remember the good times and cry about them.

This is all normal and part of the healing process. Time will heal those wounds, I promise.

It's been several months since my divorce papers were signed, and I feel stronger and quite a bit happier. It's actually nice to have my independence back. Sure, I still have days where I will hear a song and it will take me back to happier times with my ex-husband. But that is all normal. Soon, those days will be fewer and the cries will be shorter.

Just look to the future and be thankful that you were able to make that tough decision that one-half of all wives have to make.

So when you ask yourself how to survive a divorce emotionally, you don't need to google it or check out a book about it.. just look within yourself. You have it IN you to survive this, you have the strength and determination to come out a better person out of this.

I will leave you with one of my favorite quotes, "When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us" - Alexander Graham Bell.

Cory Aidenman has been married three times and divorced twice. After a disastrous first divorce, he has discovered many divorce tactics that lead to a 'Successful Divorce'. Click below for a free $97 Divorce Survival Kit:
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