How To Ditch A Stalker When They Have Won Over Family And Friends

With stalking becoming a global epidemic how can we protect ourselves from their insidious advances? Are we going to have to ask for credentials every time we go on a first date?

It may sound crazy but the amount of women being stalked by men is mind blowing. The early days of dating someone new can be so exhilarating and exciting but for some women it has turned into a nightmarish experience.

As stalkers are usually incredibly attentive their over the top advances may be interpreted as caring and romantic. They are very tuned to what a girl likes and will probably go overboard with the roses and chocolates.

The extended family will probably adore them also as they will work very hard to win them over. When they learn the true identity of this fanatical suitor they will no doubt be in a state of shock.

Often when a stalker has been given his marching orders he will react by trying to get the familys sympathy as a way to get his ex back. This works for a while and leaves his victim feeling lost and alone as by now she may be aware the guy she has been dating is a stalker.

Family and friends are often the last to realize what is really happening as all they see is a doting guy who wants to give their friend or family member the moon itself. A smart move on the part of the stalker as it has the ability to make there ex seem ungrateful and mean.

Crafty are they not? It is as if they have read every Mills and Boon book and become the hero who the girl falls for head over heels. They are often well rehearsed in the art of romance and see it as a handy weapon in their bid for control.

They did not take into account that the woman they had set their sites on might lose interest in this calculated Romeo and call it a day. It would be hoped that friends and family respected her wishes and presented a united front making it difficult for the ex to pursue any further advances. The stalker realizing that the family is not going to play ball could terminate any gentle persuasion and start to get ugly. Not a pleasant experience for anyone.

There is no doubt the old adage safety in number could work here. Even the most seasoned stalker may look at all this support the victim has and think their luck has run out.
But it does not always end here because if this guy is really determined he will try to isolate individual people in order to take the support away from the victim.

Three main ways they do this is by
Threats to friends and family
Damage to property
Constant harassmentsuch as phone calls and messages.

The aim is to leave their victim in a state of isolation where people that always cared are now afraid for themselves. The more support from those close to the victim the harder it will be for the stalker to get them alone. Stalkers hate too many people involved and so the more the merrier to help scare them off. There are many ways to skin a cat and to keep a stalker at bay.