After the breakup - you will be hurting, you cannot believe it is over and you will not accept it. All you think about it getting back together after your break up, you can make reconciliation possible if you really work at getting it to happen. If you absolutely love your ex-partner and want to re-ignite the flame, then there are some things you need to think about. The first thing you need to be clear and honest about is the cause of the breakup and how it happened, only then can you do something to bring about your reconciliation.
Your basic instinct is call your ex up and plead with them to come back, but this is not the way, nor is hiding away at home and crying, nor losing yourself in your work, so that you do not have the time to sit around and think of them. If you are sure that you want to get back together, then I would urge you to consider these 3 steps, that in my experience, offer the best chance for a positive outcome.
First step this step is vital, you must be honest with yourself and remember what caused the breakup and accept that this problem was the real cause. This may be hard for you to recognise and that the breakup happened because of that. You must also come to terms with this new reality that your old relationship was doomed and that you will have to work hard to get a new relationship going with your ex.
Second step time is a great healer, so do not rush to contact your ex while you work out how and why things went wrong in the first place. Take your time consider all the ways that you can think of to improve your relationship, go over it a few times, be honest with yourself, and do not get obsessive about your feelings. Once you have straightened out your thoughts and have a clear plan, then think about getting in touch with your ex.
Third Step by this stage you should be sure that you are still in love with him or her before you go any further, if you have any doubt walk away now. With the old relationship over and your plans for re-igniting the flame that once burned between you ready, you must now implement your plans , put all the old problems behind you and concentrate on the positive thoughts about getting back together after a breakup.
Do not come on too heavy, start slowly with a friendly conversations, let things develop naturally and just see where this takes you. Golden rules - Do not rush things - Think positively, and you will find getting back together after a breakup should be easier than you imagined.
Good luck just feel open about the reconciliation -what will be will be!
I hope this advice has been useful, remember do not be tempted to rush things, give yourselves time to take these emotional steps, you have created the best possible conditions for a positive outcome. Space in this article will not allow me give to you more advice on, take a look at here for more advice getting back together.
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Tom Janic married (with all the usual ups and downs) for 42 years to the same wonderful lady. Has spent a lifetime in the hosptality industry and for many years has been advising on relationships and marriage problems on a friendly and information basis
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