Mature Dating - True Love Surrenders

Everyone is looking for real love. The road to real love that is rooted in deep commitment and conviction begins with care and humility towards the other person. Most of the messages in today's world are geared at relationships being geared around you. What are your needs? What are you looking for in a person? How does he or she take care of you? These questions may seem normal to you but if you're looking to establish a mature dating relationship the questions need to be focused on the other person.

Too many relationships end because of selfishness not because the two people didn't have love for one another but because they didn't understand that true love sticks with it through good and bad. One of the essential elements to developing a mature dating relationship is to learn surrender. Surrendering sounds like a weak and wimpy approach to growing a successful relationship but it is truthful one of the cornerstones.

What does it mean to surrender? Most of us think about forfeiting or giving up. This is true in one sense but when it comes to relationships surrender simply means allowing the other person to win out. It is allowing the other person to take preference in decision making. For example if you're both hungry and you want pizza but your partner wants Thai food and you're both set on your individual cravings, who wins? In this situation someone is going to have to take the back seat and settle for the food they don't prefer. If you are truly practicing real love you will willful surrender your will and agenda for the sake of your partner being preferred and therefore validated in love.

Surrender takes a strong person. It takes true humility and dedication to the well being of the other person. Many times men have a difficult time surrendering their wants but when they choose to do so, they will win the heart of their woman for a very long time. Surrendering or submitting to one another is one way to foster greater levels of love between the two of you. When you serve your partner he or she will end up serving you in response to your kindness. This is the fire of love and surrender is just one log that helps make the flames burn higher and hotter.

What happens when both people refuse to surrender? There's a fight. Our will is always battling with us. There's an inner brat that wants his or her way and when he or she doesn't get it a full blown adult temper tantrum takes place. I'm sure you've seen this happen, especially in airports when people can't get their way. They act like children - foolish and bratty. When this happens in a mature dating relationship discord and chaos can erupt causes confusion and hurt.

The way to mature and real love is through surrender. Surrender your will and desires to the person you're in a relationship with. Allow them to get their preference and let them be the one who feels special.