Shyness can be a huge problem for some people especially when it comes to dating and social interaction. Sometimes being shy can be a big plus when it comes to relationships. Some people find shyness cute and are attracted to shy people. The cuteness soon wears off, if for example, you are incapable of doing anything on your own. Simple things like going into a crowded hotel, or arranging tickets to the theatre. This is when you become needy and needy people get to be a pain in the neck. So what can you do about it, before you be come needy that is?.

Throughout your life you have to grow. We have to grow as people and learn new things to progress. If you keep your me active you will be a much more interesting person with a sparkling personality.
Now if you're too shy and it stops you from doing things then you must to something about it. To do this will require some effort on your part but then most worthwhile things do. The good thing is you can start right now, there are plenty of opportunities in everyday life to get rid of that being shy habit for good.

Before you do any of the things I'm going to suggest take a moment to stop and think about what is the worse thing that could happen to you. You will not be putting yourself at risk in any way, not in any physical danger. You have nothing to loose except your own fearful way of life, which has no doubt stopped you from having fun up until now. So be brave! You have everything to gain.

Start with something simple, this is so easy anyone can do it (unless for some reason you have your jaw wired up! ) SMILE, smile to yourself in the mirror when you get up, go on, no-one will see you, do it a few times until its natural. Now that didn't hurt did it? Now next time you leave the house Smile at everyone you meet or pass in the street. Do this until it becomes second nature, you don't even have to say anything. Do it so often that people will wonder why you are always smiling. They will start to talk.

"You know that girl in number 54 always smiling she is, lovely smile to, I wonder what she is smiling about? She must have a happy life"

So now we are going from being shy to being mysterious and we all know that being mysterious is so attractive and sexy!

See how easy it is and you haven't had to say a word.

You will have to say a word of course, only one at this stage, say "hi" or "hello" Not difficult just do it.
Again do it until it becomes natural. No one is going to be upset if you say Hi to them and if they are then that person is not worth getting to know anyway. So we are just taking it a step at a time no rush no pressure take your time.

Now the next step is to stop and say a few words, just talk about the weather will do for now. You see being shy is all about you. The focus is about you and what you feel. What will people think of you. You need to shift the focus off yourself and develop a genuine interest in other people. What about them what do they think, how to they feel, what sort of life do they live, what is their story?.

This comes natural to a lot of people but some of us have to practice, fake it till you make it. By shifting the focus away from yourself you will find it a lot easier. Guess what it's not that hard because people love to talk about themselves and what is happening in their family. When you leave they will say "what a lovely person to talk to" in fact you may have only said a couple of words. People will love you for being interested and taking the time to see how they are.

If you like you can use visualisation, picture yourself talking to people with ease in social situations.

Getting people to talk about themselves can be useful if your on a first date, you can sit and listen. Only disclose as much about yourself as you want to. Some things are better left unsaid, left in the passed where they belong. We only come to this earth once as far as I know, this is our one shot at life, sometimes we need to put all our fears aside and go for it, whatever 'it' is. So don't let shyness stop you from doing what you want to. Life is too Short.