A good listener can build trust, empathy, and understanding by practicing and improving this skill. The ability to listen and actually hear what is being said makes for more open communications and prevents many problems before they start.
Here are some simple tips to improve your listening skills:
1. STOP When someone talks to you, stop and give your full consideration. Focus. When you give your undivided attention, you send the message that the person talking is important.
2. USE ACTIVE LISTENING Show you are interested by your body language, using verbal cues, and making eye contact. Make sure your listening to talking ratio is 2:1; listen twice as much as you talk.
3. ASK OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS Draw out information by asking open ended questions such as: "Why do you think that is?"" That's interesting. Can you tell me more?" Don't just ask questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no.
4. RESTATE AND RELFECT Reflect what the speaker is saying by restating what is said in your own words. Ask for clarification if you are not sure. This reassures understanding for both parties.
5. PRACTICE SKILLS BEFORE PROBLEMS ARISE The time for improving listening skills is before there are problems. By building a foundation ahead of time, communications flow more freely during times of crisis.

