Are you frustrated being fat? Webster defines frustration as the feeling that accompanies an experience of being thwarted in attaining your goals. I have been consistently judged quite severely for being fat and for not losing weight throughout my life.
The fact that I had single-handedly raised two sons, kept them sheltered, fed, clothed and educated, bought and sold several houses and as many cars, educated myself, created and ran several businesses, authored a book, and maintained a social life counted for nothing in the face of my not having lost weight. Somehow, it's like one aw shucks wipes out all the atta boys. Why is there such a stern judgment focused around obesity? And mind you: I am in perfect health despite it.
I believe this judgment against obesity was created around a lot of mistaken concepts. The media has for decades erringly touted the glory of emaciation. I've always asked my boy friends if they preferred bicycle frames or tuck-and-roll upholstery, and the tuck-and-roll always won the day. I am delighted that the modeling industry has now set a standard for BMI - body mass index. What a shame it is that they had to set that standard vs. us using our common sense! The common sense in women has been shattered by this judgment against obesity and by the aggressive growth of the diet industry.
Our parents, our friends, our teachers, and our doctors have all bought into a substantial mistake that has been perpetuated for just centuries unaware, and their buy-in is a part of the stern judgment against obesity. I'll bet you're dying to know what that mistake is, aren't you?
It is the reversal of the law of cause and effect.
And what does that mean? If I ask you "What is Cause?" would you be able to provide an answer that would satisfy you? I don't think too many of us could answer it accurately. What if I asked you to "Define effect."?" would you be able to provide an answer that would satisfy you? Probably not - so let me help provide a clarification and see if your heart says "Yea" to it as accurate.
Cause causes things. What do you know of that causes things? Some of you might answer "God" but I'd like to ask you to extend your minds along a different tangent. Have you read that wonderful book "Illusions: the Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah" by Richard Bach? It's a marvel. In the story, a character is asked to see if he can create something with his thinking. He thinks of a blue feather, and in no time at all, one appears in his experience.
Have you ever thought something and had it appear in your experience? I'll bet you thought it was just a coincidence, didn't you? Early on, I did too? It wasn't. This was Cause at work.
Cause is you, thinking. Effect is what you get as a result of your thinking. What does this mean related to the frustration of being fat? Oh, just everything, because if this is true, your fat has been caused by you thinking it into experience and can be disappeared by thinking something better in its place.
I don't want to make this appear trivial or simplistic, because I understand this can be a life's work. The truth of it is simple. The challenge is in learning how to use this truth to create the body you want and lose that sense of frustration as I am. Your frustration is actually holding the fat in place!
If you've tried dieting and you're not losing weight, maybe another solution for the obesity would work better. Look for a mental method. Do a little bit of research on the topic and then delve deeply into what you find. It will give you the next step. Simply beginning this search will lead you to the next steps. Type "mind is cause" or "cause is mind" into one of the internet search engines and follow what shows up. Consider taking philosophy courses at your local junior college. Search out this topic in old book stores - or new ones.
You deserve to have the frustration you currently feel that you link to the size of your body or being fat disappear into its native nothingness. I am well into the process of accomplishing this and I'm confident you can too.
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Pat Matson, the Wise Weight Woman, uses spiritual principles to help women overcome their frustration with being fat. From her education, her experience of not losing weight, the lessons Life has taught her, and her deep-seated sense of spirituality, Pat 's passion is to help women
learn self love. For more tips to help you achieve self acceptance, get her free report, You Are Good and Perfect Right Now and I Can Prove It! at
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Pat Matson is the Wise Weight Woman who uses spiritual principles to help women overcome their struggles with body image. If you'd like more tips to help you achieve self-acceptance, get her free report, You Are Good and Perfect Right Now and I Can Prove It! at http://www.theworldofwithin.com