Dating Seeking: The Shyness Factor

You've always been the wallflower in your class at school, in your family functions and among your friends. You weren't that vocal in school and had friends but probably weren't one of the most popular people. You're excited about venturing into the dating seeking world but you're are afraid that your shyness factor will get in the way and hold you back from taking the necessary steps when seeking dating.

Being shy can be a negative attribute when it comes to single living and trying to meet people, but it's not the end of the world and can be an asset if you work it the right way. I am naturally introverted in my personality and I had to overcome my shyness in order to succeed in the workplace and among friends and with my husband's large family. I didn't change myself. I am still introverted, but I just simply made an effort to become more friendly and outgoing. I know it sounds simple and someone who is not shy may not be able to understand the torture it is for a shy person to become more outgoing. However, if you want to find a love, you will need to work up the courage that is buried deep inside you.

One option you have is to go out on group dates with your other single friends. I met my husband through the singles group at my church. However, the one advantage I had was that my sister and I were both new to the church and we went to the group together. We were able to meet people together and it was a little bit easier than if we were alone. If you are not a churchgoer, check out another local singles group and get one or two of your single friends to join with you.

If that even seems frightening to you, then try to volunteer at a local organization, without any premise for seeking dating, and you can meet new people that way. Unless there is someone in your current circle of friends that you are interested in dating but are too scared to ask out, the key is to meet new people. Maybe you can get a part-time job at a local café or coffee shop. Join a local book club or some other club that pertains to a hobby that you enjoy. Even if you don't meet someone special there, it is valuable experience in helping you to meet new people and learn outgoing social skills. Does your workplace have a gym or do they have a happy hour after work or do people get together to hang out? Keep your eyes and ears open at all times for possibilities to meet new people. Remember to start to become friendlier everywhere you go; it's all practice towards that day when you have your first date with Mr. or Mrs. Right.

If those options even appear scary, then a professional matchmaker is definitely a great tool for you to utilize. This person would be able to match you with a compatible partner and this prospect would be thoroughly screened. The professional matchmaker would be able to get to know your personality and ascertain what you are looking for in a partner when seeking dating.