We all know how this works, you go to a bar site down and drink your whiskey. From the other side you see the perfect woman. She's amazing, she looks just like the girl you dreamed about last night. But why should a girl like that even look at you? Any other day, she wouldn't and you will just find yourself thinking about her later that night when you are all alone in your bed. Saying to your self "I wish I was better looking. I wish I could have a girl like that".
Now, lets imagine a better scenario, in this scenario, you find yourself the same night in the same bed after you just had the best sex of your life with the girl of your dreams.
This scenario is not so far away from becoming realty. Read my simple steps system and memorize it. Then, the next you are in a bar, try them out and see for your self how good they work.
Step one: Prepare yourself. The most important step in getting the woman of your dreams is: believing you can. Easier said then done. Only a small part of the population has the gift of high self confidence. Most of them already have their dream girl and they most likely don't even read this article. You, like me, don't have this gift so we have to trick ourselves into believing we do. What we do in this step is convince our subconscious mind that we have a lot of self confidence, then, we just allow our subconscious mind to do the job for us and affect our conscious mind to do the same. Let us start the process:
1. Since you are in a bar, it will be best if you are a little bit drunk for starters. Buy yourself a drink. Don't drink beer because it is filled up with carbohydrates that will most likely make you heavy and will decrease your motivation to do something. Don't drink wine because most chances are that it will make you sleepy and unfocused. I found out that the best way to reach the desired level of self confidence is by drinking a shot or two of clean, good quality alcohol (quality vodka or whiskey will do the job) but try it out yourself and find what best suits you. Make sure you have a bottle of water next to it and a glass of cola. The water is to make sure the alcohol level doesn't go up too fast and the soft drink helps because of the CO2 in it that helps you feel better faster. The best way to make sure you are in the correct state of mind is by noticing that your lips are a bit numb and your eyes are a bit red. Now we are ready to continue.
2. Take 3 long breaths. And relax on your chair. Then search for a far away lit spot (this can be a far away candle or lamp). Concentrate on that spot. Try to blink as little as you can. You will soon enough feel that you are getting out of focus.
3. Inhale deeply and exhale deeply. While you do so, imagine the girl sitting on the other side. Make sure you create the details in your mind as realistic as possible. Then imagine yourself getting up from your sit and walking over to her. Now imagine her looking at you and smiling. Imagine your self smiling back at her and starting a conversation. The conversation is going great and you even made a few jokes that made her laugh. (you should know that you are doing this right if you get a little smile on your face while doing it). Then, imagine her touching your hand while she talks and you asking her if you can sit next to her and she offcourse agrees. Don't forget to keep inhaling and exhaling deeply while you imagine all that.
4. After you finish running the scenario in your mind, take 3 long breaths and that's it. You are mentally ready to get up and talk to her. Wait! Don't do it just yet. We still have some rules and steps to follow.
In our last step we did a few simple routines to boost your self confidence temporarily. At this point you should be eager to jump off your sit a run over towards her. Don't do it! Wait. We still need to do a few things.
If after you followed this simple routine you are still feeling scared you should redo it one or more times or even order yourself another something to drink. You should know you are ready if your heart isn't beating hard from the thought of walking over towards her and you are completely calm and feeling good with the idea. Now we are reay for the next step.
Step Two: Making eye contact. This is the most important part. Look at her. Look at her eyes. Wait patiently until she looks in your direction. When she does, try to concentrate on her "bridge". The bridge is the middle part between her eyes. Exactly in the middle, between her eyes (or the top of the nose). This is the big secret. When you look towards someone and you stare into their bridge, they immediately feel wired because it seems to them that you are getting inside their head. This is what hypnotists call a "penetrating look ". This actually takes the person you are staring at off balance and even if she didn't notice you so far, you can be sure she does now. Always keep focused on the bridge. Now, a few things can happen. According to her reaction you should decide your next move:
1. She looks back at your eyes for a second and then you see her moving a bit in her chair or touching her hair or face and then she looks away – This is an excellent response. She noticed you. You changed something in her internal balance and she doesn't know how to handle it exactly. She also thinks you have a lot more self confidence then her. If this happens, you should wait for a minute and then proceed to the next step.
2. She looks back at your eyes and gets stuck in them – she doesn't look away and she looks directly back at you. Don't Panic! This is where most guys fail. This just means she has a lot of self confidence and she is testing you to see if you are afraid of her. That's just her way to prove to herself she is better then you and that you are not worthy of her. Don't worry, we are just about to confuse her back to where we want her. This is what you do: keep focused on her bridge. Imagine yourself digging into her mind and ignore her looking back at you. Then, after a few seconds, pick up your drink and slowly start drinking as you take your eyes off her. Make sure you are doing this in the most relaxed way possible. Remember: this is not a match to see who blinks first! By doing this you make her subconsciously confused. She thinks you are interested in her but then you just get back to your drink as if you were just trying to figure something about her. She will automatically think something is wrong about her and her self confidence will drop down in a second. Most of the times this should be enough. Take a few minutes to drink some more or talk to your friends and then get back to her bridge and wait until she makes eye contact again. Don't worry, she will, because she is so curious to figure you out. Everyone likes to figure out the person in front of them and to decide their opinion about him. You just deprived her of this. When you do make eye contact again she should act as the first reaction described and quickly move her eyes from you. That's great! You won the battle. Continue to next step. If she again looks directly into your eyes, then you found your self an interesting project. This is what you do: follow the same routine. Focus on her bridge for a few seconds and then, as you slowly pick up your drink snick a little "self satisfied" smile towards her. Make sure this smile is more "mysterious" then "obvious" (practice this in front of the mirror at home a few times). This sends out a clear message to her: "I want you and I know you want me too". She will immediately see you as a self assured guy and that's what women want. Now, wait a few minutes and continue to the next step.
3. She just doesn't look back at your eyes. No matter how hard you focus on her bridge, she just doesn't seem to pay any attention to that. Oh my god! What should I do now? Well, believe it or not, she is simply not interested in getting to know anyone. She is probably married' has a boyfriend or just not into it. It doesn't mean you are ugly or disgusting. Just relax and find another subject.
Now, we are finally ready for the last part. Hold on, make sure you didn't skip a step, and continue reading.
Great job! So far we have convinced ourselves that we are loaded with self confidence and we made the girl in front of us interested to find out more about us. She is now sure that we are filled with self confidence and we also made her internal balance into a complete mess. Now isn't that great?
Now we are finally going to do something about it:
1. Wait for a few seconds and then get up from your sit, take a deep breath, and walk over towards her. Make sure you walk a bit slowly so she will notice you coming. As soon as you get there, reach your hand out to shake her hand and simply say: "Nice to meet you. I'm Roni" ( you might want to use your own name) off course, don't forget to look directly into her "bridge" this will completely create a subconscious breakdown in her mind.
2. A normal person should reach back and shake you hand. Once she does, shake her hand while pressing your thumb gently on her hand in a slight circular movement. The feeling this creates also adds to the total affect of dazzling her.
3. In this moment, you should check her response and act accordingly: If she does shake your hand and/or smiles and/or says her name, that's great and you can continue. If she tries to ignore you or shakes your hand lightly and turns away it's over, you must have done something wrong or maybe you didn't follow all the rules in the bottom of this page (so keep on reading). If something like this happens, you should just say the following: "I just wanted to say that you look pretty good. Have a great night." And then walk away and get back to your sit. What you did now is completely confuse her because she was sure you are going to try something and you didn't. Isn't that wired? Yes. You just let her keep on thinking whatever she wants. You can be sure that no matter what, she will be thinking of you later that night. One time I had this happen to me and a week later that same girl saw me in the same place. I just smiled at her and waved hallo and she just got up and came to talk to me. So, don't be bothered by something like this. It will happen and more then once. Just keep on trying and stick to the rules.
4. If you reached this step then everything is ok and the moment of truth is here. This is where most people spoil everything by trying to develop a meaningful conversation and try to figure exactly how old is her baby brother and what's his name. Don't ! You cannot develop a first time conversation in a bar and most chances are she will reach the conclusion that you are not as interesting as she thought. What you should do now is simple. Just focus on her bridge and say just this: "I just wanted to say that you seem like a very nice girl and I will be happy to get to know you a little better". Wow! That's it? Yes. All you need in one simple sentence. You are staring at her bridge so she has a hard time concentrating on what you say. You didn't tell her she was beautiful, you told her she "seems nice". The average girl will immediately think that there is something wrong about her look and that will add to the confusion. You also stated that you just want to get to know her "a little better" what does that mean? Leave it up to the average girl to find thousands of different interpretations. That's the beauty about this sentence. And now it's time for the golden moment.
5. if you are a beginner in this method, I would suggest that for now you should only ask her for her phone number. Do it like this: " I'd really like to talk to you more but I have to go. Is it ok if we talk tomorrow on the phone? " when you have practiced this enough and got enough phone numbers (remember – it does take practice until you reach the correct smooth tone of voice that will calm her down and make her confident enough in you to give you her phone number. So please don't give up after the first time you fail. Just keep on trying until you mastered it) you can try to skip the phone part by saying something like this: "I'd really like to get to know you a little better but I'm just about to go to --- (fill in with a great place everyone likes to go to and I don't mean your house)? Would you like to join me, it should be fun" that's it. If she wants to come with you it's great, if not, just settle with a phone number.
A few very important rules you should never break:
1. Before even starting, make sure that there is no boyfriend/husband in sight. That can save you the time and wasted efforts.
2. If the girl is alone in the bar that's great but very rare. Applying this system on a girl sitting down with one girlfriend is not recommended because the girlfriend will take the attention away from you. A girl that is sitting with a group of people can also be dangerous because she will be shy to do what she feels like doing.
3. The solution is to wait for the perfect time when she is not a part of the conversation or temporarily alone. The more experience you get in this method the easier it will be for you to just step up to a group of girls and talk to the girl of your dreams. When you do so, it will be a very good idea to say: "excuse me for bothering" to her girlfriends before you start.
4. Never Quit! Keep trying until you get it right. That's the best idea I can ever give you.
5. Use common sense and when you get a "bad vibe" from her when you approach just walk away. Most likely the "bad vibes" are correct.
Good luck to you. And let us know how it works for you.
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