be addicted to relationships? Well the truth is, more people
then you realize. There have been movies made about
relationship addictions, think "Fatal Attraction," or "Crush."
While they displayed a more extreme version of relationship
addictions, none the less, it is a real addiction.
So how does a relationship addiction begin? Usually it
happens when a person in the relationship believes that they
can not live without the other person.
Yes, most people at one point or another have said that they
are "so in love" with a person that they "can't live without
them" and then the relationship ends and guess what, both
people survive, are happy and move on.
A person that is addicted to relationships though is in love
with the "appearance" of being in love. They most often have
low self esteem, they only feel "whole" when they are with
another person that loves them and they are afraid to be
alone.
A person that has an addiction to relationships
has very low self worth, and they are looking for a person that
has a stronger character. They most likely take on traits or
habits of their partner.
They are more likely to attach themselves to another person
before they ever really get to know that person. If you would
are concerned that you are addicted to relationships or are in
a relationship with someone that is addicted to relationships,
here are a number of questions to consider.
1. Do you become sexually involved with other people before
getting to know them?
2. Do you become emotionally attached to other people before
getting to know them.
3. Are you afraid of being abandoned or being a lone and
this makes you stay in a painful, abusive or destructive
relationship?
4. Do you get involved in multiple relationships emotionally
and sexually?
5. Do you use controlling behaviors to keep your partner
with your so they won't leave you?
6. Do you feel empty even while in a relationship so that
you look for other love interest?
7. Do you use sex or emotional involvement to control your
partner and get them to do what you want?
8. Do you obsess over the person your involved with or want
to be involved with?
9. Do you put unrealistic qualities and characteristics on
your mate, believing that they are going to save you from a
life of loneliness?
If you have read through those questions and found yourself
answering yes to those questions it may be time for you to talk
to a professional about a possible relationship addiction.
Valuing yourself enough to be complete on your own will help
you find and build a more satisfying relationship.
Article written by Jessica Bradbury, she has a site dedicated to information pertaining to addictions, including
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