The most important thing is to consider DOING what works for you rather than following some standards you might have read in a book or through some hearsay from a well-meaning or "experienced" friend. If what you and your partner are already doing makes both of you happy and it's what you guys want, stick with it.
If both of you are comfortable with the principles which you guys have set for yourselves and that work pretty well, you can write your own rules about relationship.
Let's start debunking the MYTHS!
MYTH #1: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = THERE MUST BE TELEPATHY AS GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE
Many times, you will hear complaints from your guy/gal friends that their partners do not understand them. We are all guilty to wanting our partners to know what we are thinking and feeling without having to tell them or say it out upfront. We assume he/she should know since we are already an item.
As a matter of fact, you will never see, think and feel the same way through your partner's eyes because you are entirely 2 different individuals. You are physiologically, psychologically, historically and even culturally different.
By being more alike in your thinking and harping on "telepathy", we will not solve our relationship problems. Fundamentally, men and women are made-up and created differently.
Appreciate your differences and communicate your wants, needs and desires. We can be in tune with each other SOMETIMES, however, recognising that having an open communication with your partner will further enhance and enrich your relationship is more important.
MYTH #2: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = A BREATH-TAKING ROMANCE
A great relationship must be a breath-taking romance. From the look of it, it seems true. But please do not kid yourself by expecting a Walt Disney fairytale where the Prince & Princess live happily ever after. There is a reason why the respective authors did not have sequels to their fairy-tales. The truth is that what comes after the "happily ever after" is more complicated than we thought. In the real world, being in love is not like falling in love.
A mature relationship will shift from the initial stage of "falling in love" to a deeper, stable and more secure love. Many people choose to believe that the initial stage will last forever. This is the root cause of unhappiness for these people.
Some people think that when the initial passion fades, the feeling is gone and you are not in love anymore. Because of this myth, in order to experience the feeling once again, some went on to start a new relationship so that the "emotionally high feelings" can be re-lived with someone else. How many times does one need to start new relationships in order to have that "emotionally high feelings"?
The answer is there is no need to constantly start new relationships. Most importantly, for any existing relationship, we have to learn how to move on to the next stages of love for a different but richer experience.
MYTH #3: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP = SOLVING ALL PROBLEMS IN A RELATIONSHIP
Some believe that when a guy and gal are in love, all problems between them can be resolved and if any problems or disagreements are not resolved, the couple cannot be truly happy. That is simply not true! 90% of the problems in a relationship are not solvable.
There are certain things that you and your partner hold different views and disagree about. You guys will continue to disagree on these issues. Well you can resolve these issues once and for all unless either one of you agrees to sacrifice your values, beliefs and what you stand for. By agreeing to disagree and reach "middle ground" will be the best way forward even though you guys have not reached closure on the issue.
May all of us let go of the idea that falling in love means finding someone who will be responsible for your happiness. We are responsible for our own happiness and until we come to terms with that, we will forever be a victim of our circumstances by blaming others and situations and thus dis-empowering ourselves.
Show your current boyfriend/girlfriend/Ex that you are truly sincere and genuine. View the video to see how you can possibly improve your relationship. Debunk the myths and you are on your way to having a winning relationship You can make strides in getting him/her back to your side. Take Responsibility of the situation and Make Wonders Happen!
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