Now is not the time to wallow in self pity. I know it hurts, I get it.You are not the first nor the last. There are millions of people who have recently broke up. Thousands of them have discovered a few secrets to get back boyfriend in a hurry.
Most of what the get boyfriend back books you find on the web take 60 pages and $50 to tell you what the next sentence says. Spend time on yourself and forget him. There did that help? I didn't think so. You want real strategies and real tips you can use to get back boyfriend. This will give you some direction.
1. Gather your composure and reclaim your self respect.
Do not panic. Even though the rejection shoots pain deep into the center of your soul, all is not lost. Just get some perspective on what has actually happened. I know you might believe your life will not be the same again, it will, whether or not you choose to get boyfriend back, and yes it will be your choice not his. This is probably not your first boyfriend. I'll give you this relationship was probably more serious, but did you think that then? So just try to relax and develop a plan.
Next, take your self respect back. If you are harassing your ex with constant emails, texts, and voice mails, comments on his profile, etc. STOP NOW. This will push him farther from you, and is very unattractive. If you want to get back boyfriend, you have to quit trying to pull him in. This almost always backfires, and will actually push him away.
2. Agree with the break up.
This will be hard, but you must do it. Agreeing is not what your ex expects, and will install confusion in him. This is not what they expect. You are supposed to be mad, upset, beg, plead, haunt them, anything but agree. You are not supposed to react this way. Something far more important than his confusion is gained. Men are not complicated. And they want most what is just outside of their reach. They enjoy the chase. They want what they cannot have. If they think they can have you back in an instant, they will not want you. Painful but true. By agreeing with the break up, they think you will be over them quicker than they are over you. This is extremely powerful, and is the required first step to get back boyfriend.
3. Do not contact them.
Not forever, just lay off for about three weeks. Don't send them emails. Do not leave them comments on MySpace or FaceBook. Don't call. Pretend they do not exist. Don't text them. Use this three to four weeks to have some fun. No matter what you are told do not look at their profile on MySpace or FaceBook. Don't worry, they will not forget about you. Three weeks is when they will miss you the most. Now post the pictures of the fun you have been having on your MySpace or FaceBook. Trust me, he will see them.
Perceptions are reality. If he perceives you no longer need him, and have moved on, he will find you irresistible, that is the way men are wired , and they cannot help it. If they contact you, and the vast majority of them will, that is fine. But you must not initiate contact. Another benefit of the no contact period is they will remember only the good things and forget the bad.
If contact cannot be avoided, be cheerful and smile when you see them, make small talk and excuse yourself. Do not talk about the relationship. When they ask how you are, use a little mystery with a sly grin. It will drive them crazy ( and back to you).
These three steps will work the majority of the time. When they do not, and even when they do, this article is not long enough to outline everything you should do and say. There is a no fail recipe to follow to insure you get back boyfriend.
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