You know her partially. She just has a slight idea of who you really are. I believe you did not let her all on the first date. Its time to give it a second shot. Depending on the way you would like your relationship to be or go, u got to be prepared. First, review your first date in order to cultivate a starting point for the second date. Did thing go your way, or was everything a surprise? Did she play hard to get or was she willing? This is a second chance, to make up for the blunders, if any. Time to go for the second date. You already made your first impression, because you will never get a second chance to make that. Its time to present the second phase of who you really are. Be the boss, this time. Make her feel comfortable and assure her of security. It is advisable to be different from the previous time – if you were official the previous date, make sure you meet in a casual setting. This should tell you much about the girl you are dating.

It is often taken that the date has to order during the first and the second date. Too often, if you let her order – and especially if you ask her to, she will be exorbitant. Make the order according to your budget, but involve her in deciding on what to take. Something like; how would you like it if i ordered for wine? or I haven’t taken beer for so long, help me to recall. Don’t forget to use the word dear on the second date she may not take a big note of it. This softens a spot in her heart. Before the order comes, engage her in a nice talk, about the work place – if you share some interests in that field, places, but desist from talking about family and people. Once your delivery is made, talk about food. Talk big appetite. Don’t talk of what you don’t like. It could be her best and she will hate you. Enough of warm-up!

As you wait for the dessert, its time for THE TOPIC. The million dollar question which is off course expected during the second date. It should be as simple as; "I forgot to compliment you on your hair. You look great". As she shyly says ‘thank you’, take note of the dimples. It goes all the way. She is flattered. Its only after the dessert that you should introduce the issue at hand. Do not put it so seriously in a matter of fact manner.

The best way is to pass the point with a light touch and humor in it. If the reception is not good it saves your face. You did not really mean it. If the response is positive and encouraging, take the cue. This means your second date can lead to countless ones to follow there after. Do not stare at her in brazen manner, neither should you stare at your food all the time, or at the beautiful women passing by. Maintain eye contact. Have reservations and avoid acts that might be misinterpreted. For instance it is not yet time to start holding her hand. If she makes the first bold step to touch your hand, take it cool. It is a sign of good times to come.


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