by Linda Dominique Grosvenor
You spot his gorgeous form across the room and your eyes lock. He winks and
you offer up a sexy smile that means--I'm available. He comes over and
introduces himself, and after exchanging a little about yourselves too you
discover--yikes! He's younger than you are. You search your mind--what do they
call women
who date younger men? Cradle-robbers, among other things. But he's so darn
cute and the attraction is definitely there, right? That's when it hits you, the
stigma of dating a younger man has really all but disappeared. When first
spotted out on the town with Ashton Kutcher who is notably younger, the
fabulously older Demi Moore showed no remorse at all. She's my hero. Women like
Demi
and Cameron Diaz are now making it fashionable to be found clutching the arm of
a younger man, and thank God for them!
There used to be a time when society deemed it bad taste or taboo for women
to bridge the age gap by dating a younger man, but May December romances are
inevitably on the rise. Women have taken a no holds barred approach to dating
and refuse to settle just for what they can get, they're going after what they
want--an ageless package of pure man. This proactive approach to dating of
course means, hooking up regardless of age. Some believe that it's the age gap
itself that will hinder the relationship, but I tend to think that if the couple
has enough in common and possesses more than just a "lust" for each other, any
older woman, younger man relationship really can work and develop into
something mutual and lasting.
In 2000, I met and dated a man nine years my junior. We had a lot in common,
he was a good listener and we found each other irresistible from the start. I
didn't think friends would approve so I didn't tell them, while he on the
other hand told everybody who would listen. Nevertheless, we're now approaching
our four year wedding anniversary. Yes, we got married and it's lasting!
Although I had heard the warning that to date a younger man was a no-no, I opted
to
follow my heart rather than popular dating guidelines. In my opinion he was a
man looking for a beautiful, independent woman and I was looking for a
handsome, ambitious kind of man. With compatibility being a common factor, I
believe
that we were blessed to find each other, and have been growing more and more in
love ever since.
The pros of dating a younger man in their 20's and 30's is that they like to
have fun, they're in their prime and are open-minded when it comes to career,
travel and other major life decisions. As we get older we tend to become more
set in our ways and find change in any of these areas an excruciating
occurrence. So, when you meet a younger man, loosen up and enjoy yourself. A
date is
just a date, not every man meets woman outing ends in holy matrimony, neither
should we expect it to. My advice is, don't make a bigger deal out of it than
it is. A date is just that, a date. The cons of dating a younger man may
include the fact that your tastes in music may clash, which doesn't have to be a
major catastrophe, depending on how attached you are to your CD collection. You
prefer the oldies and he's may have an incurable fetish for rock. I say
experiment with each other. You both bring something new and refreshing to the
table.
Sample each other's world. Exploration and experimentation after all, is what
life is all about.
Linda Dominique Grosvenor is pursuing a degree in Marriage and Family
Counseling and is the Best Selling author of BLOOM; book #2 in older woman
younger
man series titled The Cradle Robbers and several other novels including FEVER,
LIKE BOOGIE ON TUESDAY, PRETTY BOYS and THE HAMPTONS. She is also the author of
the non-fiction relationship book THE PLURAL THING: SPIRITUALLY PREPARING FOR
YOUR SOUL MATE. She hosts her love advice column GIRLFRIEND! on several high
profile internet sites. To syndicate her popular advice column online or in
print or to submit your love questions, contact her directly at:
Dominique@... or askgirlfriend@.... She welcomes
visitors to
her website at: www.lindadominiquegrosvenor.
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