Doesn't it seem that romance has all but died except for in our (fantasy) outlets?
The romance novel industry (a hidden secret to men) is HUGE.
Love songs are popular to certain markets.
There's a reason why. It's their main outlet to experience their secret which is repressed by all the rest of society.
I predict it will only continue to grow.
I think many women start to only attribute those feelings within themselves and the books so that they hold themselves back from experiencing those in real lives.
It's like with men. We are normal, pragmatic and complacent on the outside (generally) while we have these lurid fantasies off of men's magazines, etc. about women.
Guess who is profiting? Romance sells best for women and 'sex' sells best for men. All kinds of architect's are profiting off of this while we remain further apart as sexes.
We're building up our own independent fantasy world while hardly being interdependent with each other again.
Women are different from men in many ways; they have to be biologically. Once I realized that women were the path to sex and despite what the media said were NOT 'sex itself' it became a lot clearer to me.
If men knew the game that was going on, they would have the power to stand up to it (many of them at least). Women can't because they are more of the behavioral adaptation.
They dont' have a safe 'environment' where it's ok to let out their romantic fantasies; granted, especially when men are just thinking about sex because of THEIR programming.
But society won't let them and men are just confused as heck.
Unfortunately, people are getting more and more content with their fantasy world while others are getting more desperate about their real life success with the opposite sex.
So where has romance gone? Is there any chance?
For women's sake, we do have a society that makes actual romance difficult including the behavior of men. They're not strong or balanced enough around women and most of those that do fit the romance novel 'hero', bring with them all kinds of terrible inner traits and drama which you can't 'change' or are just impractical in your daily life or future.
For men's sake; it IS difficult to be romantic with a woman who is so 'high above you' and is socially co-dependent. It is difficult to be romantic with a woman who unintentionally is so independent and out of touch with her emotions that she ends up 'owning' you while viewing things logically.
Is it possible to even have 'romance' or is it just a fantasy?
Fantasy outlets are very profitable industries which I believe are only further propagating our current reality because of emotional attribution and behavioral conditioning.
And with all of these behavioral characteristics of BOTH men and women today it makes it difficult.
If most men show any sign of being romantic they're often put into the category of nice or wussy instantly by default because the woman is so strong and developed herself as his balance.
Fantasy can be great and the hope of having it in reality keeps many women motivated, alive and 'going'. The hope for sex is very strong with men (whether they've had it or not) that it motivates them.
Fantasy without fulfillment is a dangerous energy which has to be transmuted somehow. Usually it's just back into the economic cycle of building up the independent fantasy world even more.
More romance novels, more men's mags, etc.
Fortunately there is one realistic, general hope for experiencing romance. And with that comes good news and bad news for women and men.
So what's the answer?
Well, let's swiftly look at the attributes of romance. It's an emotion and with it are other emotions involved including a strong physiological (mind/body), spiritual and emotional response of attraction.
Emotions are natural. That's the answer; romance is natural.
We're missing romance because we as men and women aren't natural anymore.
Sure, it's a part of us that is repressed and reading a romance novel can synergize with that desire. Women know that it would be everything but when compared to her 'real world' career it
just seems impractical.
Unfortunately that's to her disadvantage.
So if the missing key to experiencing romance is nature or being natural and all things associated with it. Many people are just S.O.L. especially women because although they're 'feeling' natural when involved in a romance novel, they won't act or be natural in their everyday life because of our socio-cultural reality which is based on inner (not natural) and social attributes.
Where was the good news? The good news is that men, instead of just desiring sex actually CAN be romantic too. It's just not with these women.
the missing key is 'natural'. The answer is with natural women.
If men would open their minds to natural alpha women, instead of social and inner alpha women, they would be able to FULLY experience all of the emotions of romance, love, joy, and devotion without ever being thought of as a wussy or jeopardizing the relationship.
Why? Because the women themselves are natural and know their natural role. They remain in the natural relational dynamics which allows for a perfect, timeless and natural synergy.
Though most romance novels end up in the woman changing the man and essentially 'wussifying' him, the reality is if a man chose a natural alpha woman, he would continue to appreciate and realize her natural attributes, falling more in love with her over time and she would be there for him without trying to change who he is.
Unfortunately the social matrix doesn't like that idea of reality, so they continue to exploit our desires and hopes for their commercial benefit but yes, real romance is possible and it's
men who are more likely to experience it if they chose a natural alpha woman.
Now, I will say this...women if it means that much to you and you CAN compromise other things, find a foreign man..maybe a European one but please don't try to 'own' your man. Let him
be a man and find the right balance for both of you.