If you're nervous or thrown off in any way with the women in front of you, I can assure you that it's because of social conditioning and behavioral adaptation.
Naturally, at it's root, women know their role in relationship to men. Everything we else now is the result of the social power game which has reversed our dynamics.
What you see in front of you in the women you admire is unnatural.
It's designed for other people to profit off of the new behavior of men and women. We have more singles then ever because of it and the divergent fantasy world's each person has developed.
You see a 'sexy' woman and her make-up and tight clothes and you start feeling nervous around her. This is all a part of what's going on.
The women you admire the most; the 'alpha' models are probably what you're most interested in yet it's your lack of understanding of the root of their behavior why you get nervous and fail with them.
The social alpha 'prickteases' (as I call them) are already acting and behaving 'slutty' and they know it. If you acknowledge it you won't have success unless you're massively congruent to the porn star male model.
(Trying to teach men to be like this or congruent with this in my opinion just isn't right.)
You don't get to sex that way because they can't feel like a slut even though they're behaving, looking and dressing like it. Yes, it's ironic (it's the MOST ironic thing) and yet it's still up to you to know her true sexuality.
Don't fall into the game of social status because you will be doing all the wrong things and she won't be interested in anything but higher social status. The corporations that are profiting off of all of this WANT you to spend money on her though.
They also want you to keep buying more of their magazines which continue to condition you to glorify women out of the stratosphere in the hopes of you someday 'getting lucky' with them.
They are sexploiting women. Today, millions of culturally adaptive females look like 'objects' which they could not have gotten away with 20 years ago. Why? Well for one thing, the socio-cultural environment, promotion and stimulus (to make it safe) didn't exist back then.
Look on myspace.com and see all of the T&A that's being shown in your face. Women using their bodies for higher social status and attention. None of it is natural yet men continue to fall into the behavioral trap of the 'fantasy' stimuli.
Despite how they look on the outside and the very apparent (social) power that they have, inside, all of these women really are not sluts.
It's up to you to know it and RESPECT it as a man; if you don't you will still be a behavioral 'pawn'. But when you can clearly see past their slutty, prickteasing social adaptation to their truth; well..that is the path to reality instead of fantasy.
They want to escape the enormous pressures of sexploitation and 'what others think' to get in touch with their natural character.
Their natural character has now become the fantasy they daydream about and it takes a strong man who knows his relationship to her powers to bring it out of her.
It's up to you to see beyond that socio-cultural adaptation and counteract/justify for hersake the natural character within her so she does not feel slutty.
This is near impossible for most socialized men because all they see is her slutty behavior and .....and they don't know of her true sexuality.
If they knew of her true sexuality and based everything off of that, they could succeed with these women who are now modeling soft porn stars.
'But they're so socially based?' Right, but look at the men they end up sleeping with; even if it's a 'bad boy' he knows her natural character and most importantly sees through her social adaptation to maintain relational authority over her.
What you probably aren't aware of yet is that you can dress a natural alpha woman up to look 'slutty' and she won't won't be. Her purity will still shine through because she is still behaviorally natural, innocent and pure.
You can try to get her to 'act' or change her behavior to be slutty but her true natural character will shine through. She could be in porn videos, naked or having sex and she'll never be slutty.
Secretly, to these women's advantage they have more power than the social alpha's who appear and behave slutty even if they're virgins.
Natural alpha's can have the emotional and sex life of their dreams and never even appear slutty...they'll still be the wholesome girl you'd settle down with who will stop her ways for you because she isn't influenced or corrupted 'socially' by powers for profit; instead, she
has the power.
That is the unspoken power that women are missing. Their only hope to get in touch with their natural character is rare. Either it's a romance novel or a man who provides the environmental safe stimuli so that she can let her TRUE sexuality and self out.
Her behavior will change and she will open the path to sex itself for you.