The next step is to not take the behavior lying down. In other words, stand up for your rights. Depending on what the problem is, there is a different way to deal with this.
For example, let's say that you're a victim of the critic where everything you do, there is some kind of criticism or abusive comment.
There was a great book written by a Susan Futterman called "When You Work For A Bully" with a line that pretty much sums up how to handle the bully boss.
"In what way does calling me a moron or an idiot solve the problem? I think that there's a better way to deal with this."
That is one wise lady. See, the truth is, whether your boss likes you or not, he is also under the gun as he has HIS boss above him. The work has to get done and unless he has a replacement for you, he can't afford to lose you.
This is YOUR leverage. This is how you make it very clear to him that either the abuse stops or…well, you know what comes after the "or."
Your boss will not want to risk the alternative until he can find a replacement…if that's even so easy to do. That's where the time you've put into the company, along with your skill, comes into play.
Sure…nobody is irreplaceable. But some people are harder to replace than others.
What about the boss who talks behind your back? A way to deal with that would be to say something like, "I've been hearing from other people that you're not happy with my work. We both know that's not true, or at least I wasn't aware of it. So what can we do to get this worked out?"
By handling it professionally like that, you have a good shot at disarming the situation.
Point is, you can't just keep taking the abuse lying down. You need to immediately confront your boss AFTER you've made a note of the behavior itself.
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