People breakup for various reasons and maybe you know or don't know why you were dumped. Nevertheless, the sad reality of it is, you were and it hurts. So, maybe it's time to analyze the relationship to find out just where it all went wrong.
While you're coming up with your list of reasons you may also want to compare your list with these 9 things that may have hurt your relationship and why you were dumped:
1. Did you get too comfortable in the relationship? In other words did you feel like you didn't have to try to keep the romance alive any more because you all ready put in the effort and got the prize. You may have won the prize but you still have to work at keeping it too!
2. Did you take your ex for granted? Expecting them to always be there for you no matter what. Did you ever think to say thank you to them, for just being with you, doing things for you etc.
3. How often did you compliment them? Remember how in the beginning of the relationship you would constantly allude to how they looked, smelled, how great a cook they were, etc. Compliments are an integral part of any relationship and should be done on a daily basis.
4. Did you constantly criticize your ex? If you did, this is a form of verbal abuse and over time can damage your relationship and make the love disappear. Nobody likes to be criticized all the time; it's demeaning and gives them low self-esteem.
5. How about communication? Do you still communicate as you did when you first starting dating, living together or were married? Communication in any relationship is important and these lines should always be kept open so you can fix the problems before you breakup.
6. Did you stop dating each other? This also ties in with the first point. Do you choose to sit in front of the TV every night after work instead of getting dressed up and going out? Or even attempting to surprise them with a romantic dinner at home! You've got to keep the romance alive.
7. Were you too controlling? Did you often tell your ex they weren't allowed to do certain things because you had to be in control of their every move. This too is a form of abuse, mental abuse.
8. Did you think you should be the BOSS? Maybe you thought that you were the only one in the relationship who should make all the decisions and your partner's feelings or concerns were simply not relevant.
9. What about compromise? Was your ex the only one in the relationship that would compromise whenever things went wrong and did you expect them to always do the compromising so you always got your way?
I am no stranger to heartbreak, but have always remained the true romantic. I've been fascinated with all aspects of relationship problems since I was hit with cupid's arrow at 15.
I love playing matchmaker to family and friends and I enjoy finding ways to help people overcome their relationship problems. My friends and family come to me with all kinds of love problems and I'm always happy to assist them with their broken hearts with good solid advice and gentle support.
It wasn't that long ago I had relationship problems and I was tired of trying all the old things that sometimes worked but only for awhile and then the old patterns would return. So, I took it upon myself to do some research and found something that did really work.
This one particular ebook helped me get back with my ex and repair all the problems and any new problems that may occur. Because it worked so well for me I decided to share it with anyone who has and are having relationship problems.
All I can say is, it worked for me, all you can do is check it out, like I did. The only thing you have to lose is being lonely.
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