What makes us all different from each other is one main factor, that
is, the place where we grew up and in respect of that, all of the
knowledge and understanding that we accumulate from our parents, our
culture, and our religion. These are our main influences in life and
that is already a lot to take in. It makes all the difference in the
world when distinguishing ourselves from each other.
Even though we are growing into different experiences that bring us
our growth, we really must understand the fact that we are who we
are, and our destiny is in our own hands, regardless of the
background we come from. Many of you might be asking "what destiny
are you talking about?" "I don't even know what I want?" "Who am
I?" "Why do I care about anything?"
We have all had time to ourselves to contemplate upon life and
pondering upon all facets of our lives. You may well be asking how
you got this far in your experiences already, pending on your age at
this moment, upon reading this article!
One of the most awkward and difficult times in our lives is our teen
period. We have so many questions and, with that, even more
unanswered questions! We ask all of those people of whom we look up
to provide us with answers and on many occasions many times those
people don't even have the answers for themselves! Regardless of
what your confusion is based upon, you are alright and still on the
right track even though you are not aware of it, so long as we
don't
take a drastic decision and twist our life into a totally different
direction, leading us even deeper in an unknown situation. That, in
effect, could take us many more years to understand and recover
from. We don't need all of that in reality!
For example, when we are teens, we all know very well that at that
stage in time we still don't know what we want to do in life and
what we want to become. Most of our decisions did come most of the
time being influenced by other people. Our parents or even our
religion or culture has big part of it. We do have a major tool in
our hand one of which we usually do not use as efficiently as we
should, that is to `dream', but in a positive way of course.
Now,
what exactly do I mean by that?
Being a Gemini I recall myself and how I used to act. I did dream
all right! But I dreamt too much and without any focus! I would
start a project then I would get bored too quickly because I had no
patience and wanted things to happen yesterday, before I even gave
anything a change to begin! With that, I would then move on into
something else disregarding the first project. The result would be
me ending up turning into a loop where I could not even recall how I
ended up there in the first place! Is there anyone out there who can
relate to my experience?
Being in a state where you keep jumping from one place into another
is not a small task when it comes to learning how to discipline your
actions. Believe me!! It is only recently that I started to get a
grip on that aspect of my life and building my stamina to be able to
remain centered with things. Ideas come into my mind at a speed
of `1000 miles an hour'! All, of which, are really good but
they do
require sometime of waiting before being I am able to finish the
initial task. Now I am learning to take one item at a time, without
creating any pressure by exaggerating my `so called' belief
that I
was bored! The way, I am looking at it now is that I accept my
situation, and believe me it is not easy being a Gemini who likes to
always keep moving! The universe is constantly sending me test
experiences to evaluate my reactions. Am I going to jump at the
first opportunity that comes my way, just for the easy escape route
from what I see as being nothing of interest to me any longer today?
In reality this has nothing to do with being a Gemini, it is really
just an escape of reality nothing more or nothing less. But what is
a better excuse than by excusing it as being the fact I am Gemini?
It reminds me of some people who use the excuse for not dealing
accordingly with a situation because it's their Karma. It is
almost
the same! What I realized from all of that and from the tests the
universe is putting in front of me at the moment, is that the more I
stay grounded in my own belief of what I am doing to fix my
situation at the moment, then I will notice the shift in my
situation when a brighter picture will start to surface. Well, my
major lesson in this lifetime is to deal with my "Four" which is
stability and I am getting the hang of it these days since I moved
into a "Four" address at my new place. I decided I needed to face
that challenge in my life once for all. I was always afraid to live
in a "Four" address, but now I am getting the hang of it and I like
it! I will keep you posted on my progress and I know it will not
take much longer to learn my lesson fully either! I will keep my
dream alive this time and from now on with a little bit of focus and
perseverance to stick to maintaining that dream.
The best thing when you are into such a situation is to stop acting
completely before hurting yourself in this process. Meditation is
one solution, but not only for you to go in search for answers, but
instead, as a means to step outside of your self and take a good
look from that perspective. I was told recently by one of my guides
to go outside of my apartment where there is a seat directly in
front me. He asked me to just sit down and look at my place from the
outside, seeing myself and everything inside the apartment and to
just look at how things are moving inside my life in general. I can
truly say, even though I am not nearly as disciplined as what I
should be, when I tried the exercise it was very useful. You
don't
need to be in meditating state to try this exercise. Maybe you
should try something similar.
Now back to my statement to `dream', I do not mean to go to
sleep
and dream. When you don't know what you want or what to expect in
life just create a dream or a vision that you can go after. That
dream in reality is just a focus. That focus is your reason to keep
driving yourself to move further in life toward attainment when
striving to make your dream a reality. A dream brings you the focus.
The focus brings you faith. That faith brings you a desire. The
stronger your desire is to achieve something you can undoubtedly
make it happen.
During the course of your life, you will encounter people in your
surroundings that might tell you "you are crazy no one can do that!
You are a dreamer! You are living in an illusion!"
You are a dreamer alright, however, only when the person who is
giving you that advice is living to the best of their potential in
their own life. In this case they are then a good example to you it
is probably the best advice that anyone could probably ever tell
you. We all should accept all advice when it is given and listen to
people who are giving examples of what they are living up to for
themselves, otherwise their advice is worth nothing. What exactly
gives them the right to judge us for something that they have never
tried for themselves? To be preaching beautiful words to you is all
very well and very nice but acting upon those words is just another
story!
The point I am making is that you must allow yourself the chance to
dream and build a strong desire towards achieving whatever it takes
in order that you get what you want. That is the necessary process
in order to get you moving on your life path. Always keep in mind
that when you are going after your dream you must always remember
you are doing it for yourself in the first place and just as a means
of `showing off' or forsake of pleasing someone else.
When your desire is not build strong enough for what you are hoping
to achieve, in this case that your dream will become an illusion in
your mind which will become hard for you to distinguish from what is
your own reality.
The way we look to life is in terms of our perception of that life,
what we class as our reality. We are the creator of our own life
path and destiny. It is solely our own responsibility and this has
nothing to do with the way in which we grew up. What is required is
to firstly get out from any negative influences or negative people
around us. Do not blame your life so far on your karma or allow
yourself to become stuck in feeling sorry for your life in the past,
this is only an excuse to avoid handling your life properly when you
keep running from your own responsibility in the first place. You
are here today and tomorrow are a reflection of what perceive of
your life today. A change of attitude's required in order to make
a
good start. Let go of the people that always try to hold you back
from moving in your own choice of direction. It is hard to do this
and it is not always easy. When we let go of the people that we love
most, including our family, does not mean that we no longer love
them, on the contrary, we do, however, we must realize that our time
of growth in that stage of our life is over and we are soon to
encounter a new stage that will provide a new capacity for us to
grow. It is very important that we keep moving in our own lives. The
direction that we must to go will sometimes never make allowance for
bringing everyone with us, and our choice of direction might not be
agreeable for them.
Why is that the case? Well we must remember that we are all here to
live our own individual karma and not that of other peoples. Please
do not confuse the difference between living your karmic destiny
with having karma with someone. There is a huge difference and many
of us think it is the same thing. How do we define them?
Your karmic destiny is basically your own blue print and the reason
you came to this plane in order that you to grow within your own
experiences and lessons in this lifetime. The environment of where
you were born was only your starting point for you to achieve your
goals.
Your karma with someone is when you have a situation that requires
an understanding when dealing with someone specifically in your
environment. It does not mean your life stops there. That karma is
in your own hand and the lesson in understanding can go in
accordance to the way you chose to take it.
Take a look at your life again. If things are not moving and you
feel stuck just step out of your environment and stop feeling sorry
or ashamed of your past. Begin looking at your life from a new
perspective and a bright attitude.
About the Author:
At the age of eight Joseph discovered his clairvoyance. Joseph is
natural medium presently teaching meditation, numerology, and
provides numerology consultation and healing consultation.
Joseph started the `Free Spirit Centre' website at
http://www.freespiritcentre.info. A community web based centre
dedicated to personal growth, soul growth, eating disorders,
relationships, healing and human issues. E-mail:
josephghabi@...