A Marriage Saving Wager

There you are, trying to decide whether your marriage can be
saved, or if you even want to save it! Many times, we find
ourselves struggling and struggling, ready to just give up. We tell
ourselves that it just isn't worth it, but then find ourselves looking
for information.

That usually means you aren't quite ready to "throw in your
towel." So, why not take what I am calling "Baucom's Wager?"

What is Baucom's wager? Glad you asked. But first, you get a short
history/philosophy lesson. I promise it won't be painful.

Back in the 1600's, philosopher Blaise Pascal was struggling with
the many topics that could not, at that time, be proven. He was
pushing for people to use reason. Into that fray he stepped, trying
to address belief in God. The obvious then is still the obvious: God
remains unprovable (and undisprovable) by science. So, Pascal
saw it as a matter of faith.

He proposed a wager that is now know as Pascal's Wager. The
wager is this "People should believe in God, as it makes
reasonable sense. If you believe in God, and there is no God, you
have lost nothing. If you believe in God, and there is God, you
have gained everything. If you don't believe in God, and there is
God, you lose everything." In essence, the only losing position was
not believing in God, and finding that there is God. For Pascal, it
was clear that it only made sense to believe in God.

Now, here is Baucom's Wager. I apply it to whether or not you
should work to save your marriage. Don't worry, it is not about
God, merely that I am borrowing Pascal's frame. So, here is my
Wager:

* If you work on your marriage, and it cannot be saved, you
have lost nothing.
* If you work on your marriage and save it, you have gained
your relationship.
* If you do not work on your marriage, you have lost the
relationship.

In essence, it is reasonable to work on the relationship. You have
nothing to lose and everything to gain! In fact, if you look at the
wager, it is obvious that you should work on your marriage. Until
the marriage is over, or until you are truly ready to stop, keep up
the resuscitation!

During my first-aid training, I remember one fact drilled into our
heads: once you start resuscitation, don't stop until the doctor
says stop. The reason is simple: no matter how dead the person
may look, you don't know when he or she may resuscitate. In
other words, no matter how dead your relationship may look or
feel, you don't know what you might do or say in your efforts that
may revive it.

Sometimes, the difference between failure and success in anything
is the willingness to keep trying. This is absolutely true for this
circumstance! I have seen marriages that everyone thought were
dead and buried suddenly become powerful relationships, full of
love and future.


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