A Good Marriage Is There A Formula?

A good marriage is one in which the couple can communicate about every issue, including children, work, household management, and sex. It is also one in which the married couple spends time together. A good marriage allows for change and growth of the individuals and in the way they express their love. As the marriage grows it will contribute freely and fully to personality development; a poor marriage is one that hinders it. A marriage which is good is one in which each partner respects and values the other. A good marriage or any other successful relationship is something you have to work at.





Love





Love can be expressed in so many different ways, sometimes just with a few simple words. It can cure people -- both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it and makes a lot of things possible. Love does not only consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. Love is trust, if there is no trust there is no love. It is basically giving someone the ability to hurt you but trusting them not to. Trust takes a life time to build and only suspicion, not proof to destroy.





Couples





Couples need to be able to discuss how they are feeling, both in terms of how they feel about one another but also how they are feeling about other things in life. Those preparing for marriage need time to explore their relationship. We are often told when entering a marriage that arguing is bad, however arguments can be therapeutic. In a good marriage, couples respect one another, are loving, avoid unnecessary criticism, and are generally polite to one another. Most married couples, even though they love each other very much in theory, tend to view each other in practice as large teeming flaw colonies, the result of which is they get on each other's nerves and regularly erupt into vicious emotional shouting matches over such issues as toothpaste tubes. They need to keep being affectionate and remember that each is the primary person for the other.





A good marriage is not about finding your soul-mate, some magical person who alone can make you happy. It is not a coincidence, and it's not about being lucky, it's about learning the skills and principles that make a marriage work. A good marriage is not just about sex, it is about many other things: having a home; family; being really good friends and the union of two good forgivers. Successful relationships are a long-term process - not an overnight miracle, it is the product of constant care and nurturing.

John Emmanuel is a married father of two who enjoys writing articles in his spare time.


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