5 Steps of Divorce Recovery for Men

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5 Steps of Divorce Recovery for Men

There is a mental process that we all go through when faced with situations involving deep loss such as a death in the family and also divorce. As this is something that happens all too often we now know a general idea of how this plays out with 5 steps of divorce recovery for men (or for women).

Denial

The characteristics of this phase of divorce are:

Not believing the divorce will really happen
Not thinking about the possibility of life after divorce
Not really considering the consequences of divorce
Not interacting with your wife or ex wife in a mature way

Anger

The anger phase happens when denial is finally broken and the reality of the situation finally dawns on you. It can have these consequences.

Lashing out against your wife verbally, or worse physically
Taking your anger out on family, friends or even your children
Being bitter, resentful and withdrawn
Deliberately sabotaging things for revenge
Taking up drinking or substance abuse

Being angry at yourself

Bargaining

The stage of bargaining is a phase of desperation in post-divorce life. Once you realise that anger gets you nowhere you come to this stage and plead for things to be back as they were; or at least to salvage as much as they can. Some things that might happen are:

Pleading for reconciliation with your ex wife
Blackmailing your ex wife to get back together or influence the outcome of the divorce
Trying to get as much as you can back of your old life rather than moving forward with a new one
Trying to sleep with your ex wife again

Depression

Once bargaining does not work and you find the reality of a final verdict of your divorce hit you full force many men hit a period of powerlessness and sadness. This can be seen with some problems such as.

Withdrawal emotionally and socially from life
Lack of energy and purpose
Full blown clinical depression
Crying (and often hating yourself for it)
Suicidal thoughts


Acceptance

This is the final phase of accepting the divorce and in doing so being able to move on. Acceptance is a means of putting all the negativity of the divorce behind you, realising it is over and a new life awaits! If you are entering this phase you may start to feel:

A lifting of the sadness
Increased energy and purpose
Freedom from long term resentment
Being able to forgive your ex and yourself

If you want to know not only the steps of divorce recovery for men, but also how to speed through these and not be aught up in the destructive actions that they can cause, click below to find out more

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